I think many people misunderstand me. I think that they would never get who I truly am. I would admit that when I am misunderstood, dynamically I would explode. It does not matter who you are or where you are from, I would react quite similarly when it comes to respecting each other.
When I have stood side by side with someone for years and endured many pains that they had, you would think that there would be an unbreakable bond between us. I wonder if this is the case today. I never pass severe judgement on friends. If they make mistakes, I do not call them names, but rather I give them multiple perspectives to help them understand their position, and try and help them see the many consequences of their actions.
The most I do give me my friends is a load of advice. I could honestly say to myself that I have NEVER told anyone how to live their life. I have never said to my friends who made mistakes to STOP… NO THAT’S WRONG… DO THIS INSTEAD, IT’S THE BETTER CHOICE. Even if I have sad things like these before…. I do NOT threaten them. People have their lives, and they deserve to live it, with or without my advice.
When individuals see my advice as some form of dictation for their lives, I personally get offended, because I never said you had to take it, nor did I ever threaten you that it was the better choice. At the end of the day, I have no consequences to suffer, after all you openly admitted that there were some consequences to your problem.
You need to understand that there are some people who truly love you. When they see that someone is clearly taking advantage of you, and you allow them to do such, it hurts the person more than you can ever know.
With life comes a multitude of experience, and one of the things that I have learnt, in order to cope with not feeling so hurt all the time, especially when friends think that you are dictating their lives, is to walk away. Do onto others, as you would like them to do on to you. For me personally I do not want a dictator of my life anywhere around me.
Naturally, many may think that I would “tote” or even “grieve”…. however I have no time to waste. Life is filled of many friends and many people. I am a budding sociopath, and just like the growth of a fruit on a citrus tree, as a strong wind blows, I could drop you just like that!
Always looking at life,
Shahad the Sentinel